Wednesday 8 January 2014

Live-in Life


1. Introduction:

India a country of cultural values and rituals, ceremonies cannot afford to plunge into western society.
But since growing economy and people getting more and more aware, India finally has to step ahead and walk with the rest of the world by legalizing Live-in relationship. Yeah it sounds absurd that country like India would allow its citizens to do that, but its fact the state cabinet gave its green signal to amend Section 125 of Criminal Procedure Code which seeks to protect the pecuniary interests of the other women. However, it would need the centre's stamp of approval to become a law.

The definition of the word wife would have to be change which is under section 125. The amendment done would be like a woman who believes in Live-in relationship or wants to have a polygamous relationship is legal. The state has proposed a reasonably long period for that woman to stay with the mate, but has not defined duration of that period specially In a country like India this is one of the odd steps taken, but still its better one.

2. Meaning of Live-in Relationship:

The legal definition of live in relationship is "an arrangement of living under which the couples which are unmarried live together to conduct a long-going relationship similarly as in marriage" .

Live-in relationship is one such connection in which a boy and girl have some relation before their marriage and if they are satisfied with their partner they get married or be like that for years. This kind of act though seems different; it is one, which is being implemented today. Live-in relationship handles matter of premarital sex, but those couples who are maintaining relations don't mind such things. Overall, this relation builds up harmony between the couples, but spoils their social influence .

Live in relation i.e. Cohabitation is an arrangement whereby two people decide to live together on a long term or permanent basis in an emotionally and/or sexually intimate relationship. The term is most frequently applied to couples who are not married .

3. Difference between Live-in Relationship and Marriage:

A marriage is governed by a separate set of laws in all countries which safeguards the interests of both parties who enter into the union. Live-in relationships on the other hand have received due recognition in a few countries such as France and Philippines. In India, presently there is no law defining the maxims of a live-in relationship. The Supreme Court however, has observed in a current ruling that a woman who has lived in a live-in relationship for a long period of time should enjoy the same rights that a married woman is entitled to.

Live-in relationships do guarantee immense financial freedom for both parties involved. In a marriage however, it is generally accepted that the married couple share their earnings and enter into joint financial venture. However, these rules are not carved in stone. In today's day and age even married couples tend to keep their financial matters separate and many live-in couples decide to share their individual earnings.

Despite the fact that there are scores of couples who are opting for live-in relationships, the society still attaches a taboo to such relationships. The majority looks at live-in relationship as a dilution of morals and more importantly tradition. Marriage on the other is still venerated by most despite the alarming rise in the number of divorces and problems in relationship. Therefore, the primary difference between live-in relationships and marriage is that marriage has received the societal stamp of approval and live-in relationships are yet to do so .

4. Live-in Relationship in Other Countries:

Different countries have different stand on Live-in relationships. For example Bangladesh cohabitation after divorce is frequently punished by the salishi system of informal courts, especially in rural areas. In Indonesia, an Islamic penal code proposed in 2005 would have made cohabitation punishable by up to two years in prison. Also Cohabitation is illegal according to sharia law in countries where it has been practiced. On the other side in many developed countries like USA (23% in 2003), Denmark, Norway, Sweden (above 50 %) and Australia (22% ) etc Live-in relationship are very commonly practiced, accepted and are not considered to be illegal.

Scotland:

Family law (Scotland) Act 2006, for the first time identified, and in the process by default legalized, live-in relationship of over 150,000 cohabiting couples in the country. Section 25 (2) of the Act said that in determining for the purpose of any of section 26 to 29 whether a person (A) is cohabitant of another a court of law can consider a person as a co-habitant of another person (B) the court shall have regard :
The length of the period during which they lived together,
The nature of the relationship during that period and
The nature and extent of any financial arrangements.
In case of breakdown of relationship, under section 28, a cohabitant has right to apply in court of law for financial support .

United States:

The American legal history was then witness to several consensual sex legislations, which paved the way for living together contracts and their cousins, the "prenuptial agreements". The country later institutionalized cohabitation by giving cohabiters essentially the same rights and obligations as married couples, a situation similar to Sweden and Denmark. Those living together are not recognized as legal parents .

Australia:

Section 4AA of Family Law Act 1957(Australia) defines the meaning of de facto relationship it says that a person is in de fact relationship with another person if;The persons are not legally married to each other; and
The person are not related by family and;Having regard to all the circumstances of their relationship, they have a relationship as a couple living together on a genuine domestic basis .

Canada:

Live-in relationship is legally recognized in Canada also. Section 54 (1) of Family law Act, R.S.O. 1990 says that, two persons who are cohabiting or intend to cohabit and who are not married to each other may enter into an agreement in which they agree on their respective rights and obligations during cohabitation, or on ceasing to cohabit or on death, including,Ownership in or division of property;Support obligations;The right to direct the education and moral training of their children, but not the right to custody of or access to their children And further sub section 2 of section 53 says that if the parties to a cohabitation agreement marry each other, the agreement shall be deemed to be a marriage contract .

5. Rights of Children born out of Live-in Relation:

Although Supreme Court of India has granted the legal status to Live-in Relationship,but what happens if one partner decides to walk out. Could the other partner be left homeless? Will the children born into live-in relationship be recognized by the law? Will it empower women with the Right to Inheritance, Right to maintenance, and Right to demand Alimony? Will the law give the same standing status to live-in relationship as that of Marriage?

Answers to these questions are changing on a regular basis. Recently Supreme Court of India laid down that, child born out of live-in relationship possess a right to inherent the properties left behind by one of the partners. Bench of Justice P Sathasivam and B S Chauhan said that "if a man as well as a lady are living under the same roof and living together for quite a few years, there will be presumption under Section 114 of the Evidence Act that they live as husband and wife and the children born to them will not be illegitimate" .

The court protected their live-in relationship but alerted them that they will not be entitled to claim Maintenance and Alimony in case one of them later walks out of this wedlock. It is so because they do not qualify condition No. 3 of live-in relationship. They both must be unmarried.

Even in UK also child born out of such relationship has right to maintain himself/herself. At the end of a relationship, both partners will be responsible for supporting children financially, regardless of which one of you the children live with. The court can make order about who the children should live with. The order will usually allow contact between the child and the parent with whom the child is not living unless there are exceptional circumstances. In Canada there is no difference in law in the status of a child born to someone who is legally married, to a single mother, to a person in a common-law relationship, or to a couple in a same-sex relationship or an opposite-sex relationship. A child born outside marriage is treated in the same way as a child born inside marriage.

6. Conclusion:

It's better to have a live-in relationship rather than having a divorced life.This is common and quite rational line favoring live-in relations in the world. It should not be denied that our culture does need a legislature to regulate relationships which are likely to grow in number with changes in the ideology of people. The right time has come that efforts should be made to enact a law having clear provisions with regard to the time span required to give status to the relationship, registration and rights of parties and children born out of it. Laws should be made by the parliament, which should keep a check on the practice of evading bondages.

Friday 10 May 2013

Every Living Creature On this Earth Dies Alone



This is a profound statement that can only express something of the truth in its words. They may appear harsh to those that think they have found their partners, their friends, their family, however,
to those that have not been blessed with such fortunes, the severity of these words is something that will strike close to the heart as there is nothing but truth in such words.

Loneliness, this is something that everyone fears in their lives, something that so many people attempt to disguise with masks of merriment and ecstasy when in fact in their hearts they are aching and
starting to detach themselves from a reality that just doesn’t give a crap about them. Let’s face it; the world has too many people for all to be cared for...

I have been given nothing but love and encouragement from my parents. Coming from a sheltered home where life wasn’t really experienced to the fullest, my first steps into university away from home
were the biggest I’ve ever had to take. Being away from home brought the concept of loneliness firing up into my soul; I was alone here. I knew no one, knew nothing of the traditions.
However, things were soon made clear as time progressed and I fitted myself in with a group of friends that I feel I should never have abandoned in the later months.
It was with them that I never felt such a strong desire to cling onto someone; it was with them that I learned to be myself. However, things change as soon as months slip by;
I found myself depending on the weekly “hook up” in order to tell me that I fitted in with the rest of society and their views of a Nice guy. I’ve never had much self confidence in all honesty,
and it was the fact that so many girls wanted to be with me, in a sexual manner, that caused me to feel this elated sense of confidence.

However, no matter how many girls I have kissed, it never once dulled the lonely feeling that ripped through my insides. Those few that I thought could quench my undying thirst for that special
someone seemed to only prove that every single girl was the same, and that they all just wanted one thing. I have never felt so abused, so used in life.

Watching the new couples form as this learning year kicks into full swing is something that causing my heart to both swell with warmth, however, it also causes it to shatter in a silent heartbreak,
a silent scream of agony as I could wish for nothing more than that to happen to me; but as I have said, loneliness seems to be my loving curse. It never leaves me; it’s like a sore,
sweltering rash that plagues the skin as a fungal infection.

Countless times I have been told that “I’m a great Guy” and that any girl would be lucky to call me her boyfriend. I wish I could believe that. Previous encounters with the opposite gender have made me feel
absolutely despondent. I can really kill myself for developing these stupid high school crushes on girl that do not feel the same way about me, and thus, constantly suffer with the aching of a heart that
just wants something more than a night with someone. I would do anything to have that in my life. I would do anything to have a girl that I have really liked take a step away from the ridiculous conformity
that all women seem to suffer with, and just be the one that is different, that changes my view of the idiotic female gender. Honestly, mixed emotions are being flown about the place right now as
I am filled not only with sadness and regret, but also a boiling sensation of anger and resentment. Is this all normal? Does every guy experience this? Or is it just the unlucky few that have to be somewhat
different to the majority of the male population of this Godforsaken planet? If one looks at it this way, how many guys have committed suicide because of partners of a broken relationship, or
because of some asshole of some girl in their life? They’re all the same. They only want one thing in life. They’re all the same, and I don’t think there is a single soul out there that could ever make me change
my mind on this very fact.

Why is it that I harbour such resentment, such fiery rage and such passionate anguish for these people that we can’t seem to live without? Well, this can all be said to stem from the multiple experiences that
I have had since my arrival at this university. More importantly, it is a figure, a person, a girl that made me believe, for a night, that the female gender was not all the same, horny little buggers.
She made me believe that there were a few out there with a heart of gold, a bubbly personality that just hated seeing depression and anger, that the world was not based on the hypocrisy,
which it seems to love so much. For a few days I believed that she was the true one that I was meant to fall for, that she was the one that would sweep me off my feet and prove my assumptions wrong;
I thought that once my emotions were out in the open and intentions made clear that something would happen. However, once again hopes and expectations were crushed, like water breaking over the sharp
jagged rocks that protrude from the sanctuary of the oceans and seas. It is on this very day that I suffer with this bittersweet curse of loneliness, it is on this dreadful day that I have found out that everything
meant nothing. It is on this day that I feel that all my dreams of finding a valid partner for my course of university life is over. No girl has ever made me feel so useless, so shattered, so broken and so foolish.
I am but a fool to this world of love and relationships, nothing more and nothing less. I guess I will have to promise myself that my academics are more important than anything else in this world. After all,
I have my mother and father, although they will not always be there, I guess loneliness will be my only love in life.

This is a fate that I am just going to have to accept, some way or the other.

Monday 15 October 2012

I some how fell in love with you, now i wish i could say......

"you never forget your first true love. either the scars left behind stay there forever, or your heart never beats the same way again..."

You make me sick. love sick. If only you knew everytime i see you, i speechless. breathless. whenever i have the chance to see you, i take it in an instant.
If you only knew how often i thought of you, you'd be blown away. If you knew that i compare everyone i come across to you, you'd be blushing.
But if you knew how bad you hurt my heart, and how whenever i see you i just want to break down and cry, you would feel so guilty.
That someone so "special" to you has to feel this unbearable pain. Even worse, that you're the person causing it.
If you love someone you would be willing to give up everything for them, but if they loved you back, they'd never ask you to.
When it comes to wishes and dreaming i know what i want. But what if what i want, is something i can't have? I am 110% sure that i want you.
I want you in my life so bad. and you know why? Because you make me so happy. And when i met you i felt like i had known you forever and nothing else mattered.
But then you punched out of my life, like the end of a days work. I know i want you here next to me, but thats just not gonna happen.
So why wish and dream, if we know we're just wasting our time? You only find a few people in this world. A few people who will tell you they love you and mean it with all their heart.
Dont forget those people who stood by you through it all. The special few that were there for you til the end.

i wish that i could tell her how i feel. i wish i wouldn't worry about what everyone else thinks. i wish she would just love me back. and i wish the everything would have a happy ending....but everyone has a dream...right?
i don't know what i'm gonna do... i've spent days and nights without you... it hurts me so bad to know you're not there... but you know i love you and you don't even care... i wish i could get you to see how much.... how i love looking in your eyes, and your gentle touch... but i should move on.... i know, but i just can't seem to let go
tears running down my cheeks, this isn't the way it's supposed to be. you'd think by now i'd have realized, i shouldn't need you in my life. But i do, i want you so badly i can barely breath and that's what's hurting. That's what's killing me.
I'm not angry because we broke up, i'm sad because i can't let you go. I'm happy because of the memories we made, i'm sad because i can't stop reliving them in my mind. I'm not angry at you for not loving me, i'm angry with me for still loving you. I'm not angry that i lost you, i'm sad because i once had you. I'm not angry that i can't have you, i'm sad because i know what i'm missing. I'm not angry that you've moved on, i'm sad because i can't. I'm not angry that you won't come back, i'm sad because i keep hoping you will. I'm not angry because i hate you and don't want to....I'm sad because i miss you and i love you
forget her name, forget her face, forget her smile. her warm embrace. For her when they play our song. Forget you cried the whole night long. Forget how close you two once were. Remember, she has chosen him. Forget you memorized her walk, forget the way she used to talk. Forget the things she used to say, remember she has gone away. Forget her laugh, forget his grin, forget the dimples on her chin. Forget the way she held you tight, remember she's with him tonight. Forget the times that went so fast, forget the love that now has passed. Forget she said he's never leave you. Remember he will never be you
i miss the days you held me and the days i heard your voice. i miss the days you were here. Us falling apart was not my choice. i miss the days you kissed me and the feelings we used to show, but most of all, i miss the guy i used to know.
in what seemed like one split second, i lost what i held most dear to me... at the mere blink of an eye it was all gone... so i ran after you... and held on as tight as my tiny hand could grasp. Already weak from all the torment i could not allow myself to let go. Love that once shined so bright turned dark and angry... i loved you more than i ever dreamed of loving someone. You were the last star in my big lonely sky. My only dream ever come true....but now you were gonna end up like all the rest. I tried.... i tried so hard. But my love isn't enough anymore. I will never forget you. My last star has fallen....


Sunday 26 August 2012

Life is what you make it ....


The power to succeed or fail is yours alone. You alone have the responsibility to shape your life.
Nothing and no one can deny you greatness once you understand this.

What the human being calls life refers to the material body that has "life" and its counter as death, is when the body stops working. They consider that life is learning while walking on a path that you chose by your actions until your body stops.
1- Understand yourself.
2- Understand the physical world and the very other dimensions.
3- Understand the concept of energy.
4- Understand the concept of meditation, meaning and cause of action.
5- Understand that there is Physical and NON physical.

There's no one to stop you but yourself. No one can cheat you out of ultimate success but you.
More powerful then all the success slogans ever written is the realization that everyone has but one boss.
That boss is you. Picture yourself vividly as winning, and that alone will contribute immeasurably to success.

In most of the times,various kinds of happenings and experiences in our life unknowing convey a
sort of lesson/learning to us. Mostly it is not possible to avoid what we don’t want/expect.
If a person is inclined to its inner truthfulness to be inspired with not only in its practical/external/social
life but also in its emotional and spiritual life, he/she can find some meaningfulness in this life by believing/feeling the  eternity of one’s inner truthfulness. I do feel your positivity in your professional life, to some extent is contributed by your  unknowing learning from such strange and happenings.

if you have not made somebody's day happier, if you've not appreciated something good that has happened to you and if you have not felt thankful to be alive, then you have wasted that day of your life on earth

Creativity is closely associated with bipolar disorder. This condition is unique . Many famous historical figures and artists have had this. Yet they have led a full life and contributed so much to the society and world at large. See, you have a gift. People with bipolar disorder are very very sensitive. Much more than ordinary people. They are able to experience emotions in a very deep and intense way. It gives them a very different perspective of the world. It is not that they lose touch with reality. But the feelings of extreme intensity are manifested in creative things. They pour their emotions into either writing or whatever field they have chosen..

One story.... it's true..

"Ek ladka hee jo sirf paise udan , enjoy karna & show off karna wo hi uska kaam tha , means (BPL) thaa
kai bar uske daddy ne use samjaya beta " Ghar Ka business hey dhyan dee uspe use agee badna tujhe hey,
but uske dimag me kya tha kisi ko nahi pata tha, wo bus apne man ki sunta tha , bus wo enjoy karna jata tha,
but kehte hey na kabhi na kabhi kahi na kahi kisi ke liye koi hota hey wese usko bhi koi milgayee usi masti ke darmiyan,
but wo dar ta tha use bol ne se ki i love u... lekin usne ek bar use bolause i love u. wo bhi ek ajee b tari ke se ...
usne gharpe use bula an suru kiya, sab se milana suru kiya, us ladki ko koi dekhe ya koi kuch kahe use wo marta , fight karta,
but suddenly some thing happen in his life very bad jo nahi hona chahey tha .... ek bar uske hi samne wo use chod ke chali gayee.... es duniya se ....
wo pura depress hogaya , apne aap ko uske liye doshi man ne laga, 2 time use ne suicide kar ne ka try kiya,
but wo bach gaya ... use yaad aye wo word jo usne kahe the use " my dear, life is must go on .... kuch esa kar jise tujh par tere daddy ko proud hoo"...
aur usne puri life change ki .... daddy ke saath jane laga wo business me mind ko divert karne laga
aur har ek dosto ko help karne laga chahey wo kisi type ki kyu naa ho.... ek bar suddenly wo chala gay out of country ....
waha jake wo study karne laga aur enjoy bhi (drink and playing guitar, and write notes, )... but wo bhula nahi tha use aur uske wo words ko aur life ko badal ne me laga gaya ,
pura pura din ,, puri puri raat wo bus job , dollar and drink ye 3 things ke piche wo bhagta raha aur, usne apni life ko aur apne aap ko badal diya tha,
log kahene lage yarr yee pehle wala wo hi full of enjoy kane wala aur show off karne wala who ye ladaka hey ya koi aur,
uske family wale bhi shock ho gaye... uske ye badlav ko dekh kar... aab uske pas out of country me ghar hey , 2 store hai, and life ko ek professional and enjoyment level pe jita hey,,
but uske life me wo nahi hey jo pehle tha , but kisi ne use badda l diya ... mera ek hi kehna hey " life me kisi ke kehne se bahut kam log hote hey jo badal jate hey..."
life ek esi ceez hey jo hume 2 rast dikhati hey ek sahi aur galat wo hume chun na hey kon se pe hum jaye,
life woo hey jise tum jese chaho wese jee sak te ho , jese bana na chaho bana sak te ho ... ek pot maker hot hey jo apne hi hatho se achee pot banata hey aur bure bhi bana sak ta hey to fir samjalo aap bhi ek pot maker ho aur life ek pot hey ... so life is what u make it of?

Life is too short, Don’t ever waste it.
Life is sweet, Take time to taste it.
Life is a journey, Find the right path.
Life is entertaining, Don’t be afraid to laugh.
Life is for good times, Make them last.
Life has it’s bad times, Put them in your past.
Life is chance, Make sure to take it.
But most importantly - Life is what you make it.

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can –


Tuesday 14 August 2012

I am not interested....!!!


Certainly you can try to recover from that 'I'm not interested’ response. You can ask, 'Why do you say that?' (Say this gently, as though you are confused and really, really want the answer.) You can repeat back: 'Not interested?' (Again, say this gently, as though you are confused.) This sometimes gets people to start talking and explain themselves. Bottom line, however, if everyone that you speak with says, 'I'm not interested,' you're not saying anything interesting.

If you have a compelling script with stellar delivery, you will hardly ever hear the words, 'I'm not interested.' That's because you will actually be saying something interesting!

On the telephone, you have approximately 10-20 seconds to grab your prospect's attention - and if you do not do that, your call is probably over. 10-20 seconds is not a lot of time. You are not going to convey a lot of information in 10-20 seconds. Instead, what you'll convey is your energy, your confidence and your excitement. Your words must reach out and immediately grab and hook your prospect's attention.

From the moment your prospect says, 'Hello,' your goal is to gain your prospect's attention so that she is hungry to hear more. If you don't hook your prospects in the beginning of your conversation, they will not want to speak with you. They will say, 'I'm not interested,' and worse case, they may hang up on you.

In order to hook your prospect, ask yourself: Whom are you calling? Why should they be interested? You're looking for hot buttons, those issues that are so important to your prospect that when they come up, your prospect stops in her tracks to listen. The big point here is that when you are trying to hook someone, you have to have some sense of what's important to them.

Oh, rejecting someone is the worst part of dating! Some of us are mature and straightforward enough to tell someone plainly that we aren’t interested. Some of us…aren’t.

In a perfect world, everyone would be imbued with the capability of gracefully telling a prospective suitor “Thanks, but no thanks.” in a kind and gentle manner. But this isn’t a perfect world, and sometimes we’re forced to choose between mature and effective.

Whatever the situation is, we’ve culled together exit strategies for everyone, whether you’re an upfront person, or have a more roundabout way of dealing with things. Straightforward is better, guys! Straightforward is always better! But you do what you gotta do.........

very first time i heard this kind of word "I am not interested"...... fuck man.....!!! ..........

Any ways now used to it soo life must go on ... some time this kind of word use for avoid someone or cut the topic.....


If you are the person on the receiving end of this message, I want to remind you that finding the right person always comes with some degree of trial and error.
Try to keep perspective and not look at this as a rejection of who you are. This simply wasn’t the right relationship for you. Remember, if you are being yourself, you are not doing anything wrong.
A match not working out does not change who you are and all the great things about you. Keep moving forward. Be patient with yourself and others.
You will make the perfect match for the right person. Ultimately, by closing one door, you bring yourself one step closer to the person and the relationship that is completely right for you.
New relationships thrive on mystery, unfamiliarity, and the thrill of the chase but these same things often blind you to the warning signs that indicate that he or she may not be as over
the moon about you as you are about him or her.
The problem for many men and women is knowing the difference between 1) a person who is interested but trying not to be over anxious; 2) a person who is just not interested enough.
The reason why it's sometimes hard to tell the difference is because some "playing hard to get" behaviour is very similar to "not interested" behaviour.
While a person "playing hard to get" will continue to be very open and approachable and available he or she will be hard to nail down.
The person "not interested" on the other hand though he or she may have been very open and approachable and available initially will suddenly seem distant and unreachable.

Friday 27 July 2012

Life is nothing without Friendship & Love ?

Friendship........!!!!














Friendship is one of the most valuable assets that we create in our lifetime. That is why people hold friends in such high regard.
People understand the concept of friendship differently, but there is one common ground for it – it is always built on a mutual sympathy.
In some cases it is transient and finds its end eventually, while in other cases it may last for many years and grow stronger every year.
True friendship is built on trust and mutual support. Your real friend will always find time to talk and try to find solutions to the hard situations you face every day.
He/she is always there to help you and expects the same from you. Friends are psychologically comfortable with each other, and sometimes are emotionally closer than with their relatives.
You never know when you will meet a friend – you may have common interests, work or study in one field, or go through the hard situation,
which will unite you. Women are scientifically proven to seek support and sympathy in their friendship (due to higher emotionality of all females),
while men find friends with common interests and whom they may trust. Friendship between men and women can also happen,
but there are numerous hot discussions whether these relationships can be considered a friendship at all.
I guess, it is easier to make friends while you are young, or even in childhood, as there are no adult problems in life.
But of course, this is only a single opinion – each friendship differs, depending on your personality and a number of other factors.
Friendship is a very hard concept to define, but there are always feelings that go with it: sympathy and empathy,
compassion and mutual understanding, honesty and trust. It is much harder to live if you don’t have close friends.
Unfortunately, in modern complicated life it is becoming harder and harder to find your true soul mate.
But if you succeed to find one, you are really happy person.....

Over time we've developed something extraordinary,
That will last forever because we're both unordinary.
I used to think that friends were the people that you could laugh and talk to.
Now I know that, Friends will be with you every step of the way
No matter what people say
They make you happy when you are feeling down
They make you smile instead of frown.
Friends always accept your past,
Support your present
And encourage your future.
A friendship isn't an opportunity it's a sweet responsibility.

I prefer to have few true friends than having a bunch of 'fake' friends. What's 'fake' friends mean?
Fake friend is someone who will be with you during shine and leave you during rainy day.
I believe you've met some of them, don't you? Or else your life are so beautiful with all true friends around..

- Be a secret admirer of your friend.
- Treat your friends the way you want to be treated.
- Keep secrets that are told to you.
- Pay attention when your friend is talking.
- Keep your promises.
- Share things with your friend.
- Tell your friend the truth.
- Don't prove him/her wrong in public.
- Try to understand your friend.
- Pull your friend away from making mistakes.
- Try to teach & learn good things.
- Stick up for your friend.





























Love .....!!!

















Life is nothing without love; love is nothing without hope; hope is knowing you'll be there every day.
Love is so mush beautiful word on this planet and has so much importance in human beings lives.
You can see love not only in humans but also in birds, animals and fishes.
Without love animals and people become sad and can’t do their daily routine work properly.
Love is not only for young lovers and couples but love is a feeling for parents, children, brothers and sister.
To care for someone and to protect someone from difficulties is also a kind of love.
There is no restriction of love for any age group and anybody can express this feeling without any restriction.
Expressions of love are not limited to youngsters but old, teens and couples can also express their love feelings to their loved ones.
Love is not a feeling that is expressed by saying something to others but this feeling can be felt by anyone.

Well, it seems to me that the best relationships–the ones that last– are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is…suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.
A kiss upon the hand of someone you truly love, is more beautiful, and more valuable than any diamond or gem could ever be
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails.

Love has,
….No cast,
….No face,
….No selfishness,
….No religion,
But Love has,
Care ?
Passion ?
Innocence ?
Bravery ?
&
Love has the Magic ?


For every beauty..
..there is an eye somewhere to see it.
For every truth..
..there is an ear somewhere to hear it.
For every love..
..there is a heart somewhere to receive it..!!!

You were my strength when I was weak,
You were my voice when I couldn’t speak,
You were my eyes when I couldn’t see,
You saw the best there was in me,
Lifted me up when I couldn’t reach,
You gave me faith bcoz you believed,
I’m everything I am, Because you loved me

I fell in love with you once . . .
And while I couldn’t let you know immediately
Eventually, in time, all was revealed.

They say that when you fall into love,
It can never last.

They say that true love grows, takes time,
But from the time I first fell in love with you,
My love has grown.

I know now that if I had the choice
To do it all over again.
I would, without a moment’s hesitation.

Yes, there may be regrets.
Yes, there may be disappointments.
Yes, there may be uncertainty.
But what is life without love?

And while I know you’re not perfect -
After all, who is?
And while there may be things about you which get to me,
I love you, despite them all.

And while I’m sure there may be others,
Considered more beautiful, more lovely, more charming,
There are none considered by me.

For you, my love, are the most lovely in spirit,
The most charming in personality,
The most beautiful person I have ever known -
And as such, I love you.

I said I fell in love with you once -
Well, that wasn’t exactly true.
Because every time you look me in the eye,
And smile that smile of yours,
That bubbles up from within your heart,
I find myself falling in love with you all over again.

No matter what has happened in my day,
No matter how I feel,
I find my heart opening to you all over again
No matter what has happened in the past,
No matter what may, or may not happen in the future,
I find myself in love.
After all, what is life without love?
And what is love without you?

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So that's why guys friendship and love both are very important things in our life so please don't live without it.....



Saturday 14 July 2012

How to Propose Girl.... ?

Love is said to be the greatest feeling of the world. But it really hurts when it is only one sided. For a healthy love relationship it is really very important to express your love in words. Many people fail in this, they love someone very truly but as they can't express their feelings they always face failure in love. Only loving someone is not good enough unless you tell him/her about this. But the way of telling this may change your relation to love or may break the relation also. So you must take care of this, how to say,”I Love You”.

Are you nervous on how to propose to your girl? Well, don’t be........

The one thing that you should keep in mind while proposing is that girls are very sensitive and every girl are different from the other.
So make sure that your way of proposing to the girl should be unique in your own way, and should be according to the temperament of the girl.

Some of the best ideas for proposing a girl are mentioned below. Try them out and win the heart of your lady.

- Be yourself. This is the first rule that you need to get into your mind when you think of proposing a girl. Do not overdo your proposal. Keep it simple yet special and sweet.
Be who you are, and in your own special way say those three golden words.

- Another old way of proposing is going down on your knees with a red rose in your hand. Though this is an old way of proposing, this still goes down the line and is bound to impress any girl.

- Make her feel special by taking her out for a quiet romantic dinner. Prepare well and have her favorite dishes ordered for the two of you.
Have her favorite music playing in the background and find a nice romantic moment to propose her. She will definitely be moved by the effort that you would have taken for arranging the special dinner.

- You can get a banner prepared with the word I Love You and have it displayed outside her house or in the workplace.
It is advised that you do not use her real name on the banner, but use the endearment that you generally use to call her.

- Take her to the place where you met each other for the first time. Recreate the same moment and then propose to her. It will definitely move her and get embossed on her memory for lifetime.

- If it is possible for you and you can afford it, have your proposal written on the sky. You can contact the skywriting company and have it arranged when the two of you are together.

- You can make arrangement for asking your neighbors to put off their lights and have the windows lit up in the words I Love You. Take her to the balcony and open her eyes when everything is set. She will definitely love this.

- You can drive to the beach in the evening and with some romantic soft music playing. Just as the sun is going down whisper the three words that she is longing to hear in her ears. This will definitely make her melt.

- If both of you are the adventurous kinds, then you can plan an early morning trek to a nearby place, and when the sun is rising go on your knees and propose her on top of the summit.

- If you want to make it dramatic and funny, then you can have a water gun and hold it out on her and say you are under arrest, and when she is all shocked and panicky then say for stealing my heart and say out I Love You.

you can definitely win her heart. So pull up your sleeves and walk up to her and say out what you have in your heart.

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POETRY
if you are good in poetry write a sweet poem for her, record it for her and when you meet her play the record and then see her melting and then ask her
the question and even you are not that good in poetry then also a sing a beautiful and romantic song which show your feelings but i personally feel that poem is a better option
and love makes everyone a good poet so just try once may be you create a good one.

Flowers are always lovers best friends
give her a bouquet of red roses when she meets you and combine it with any other idea or send flowers at her place, starting from a single rose then just increasing the size of bouquets with Romantic note in each describing what she is to you and then the sweet promises of yours.
And then come up with one bouquet and the ring yourself and ask the question.


Plan your date
take her for a nice movie ,go for a drive .take her to a romantic dinner.
spend the whole day with her.pay attention to what she does.girls notice small things so show her small signs of your care the whole day.be gentle make that whole day special . when the sun is going to set take her to the place you both love to be at or where you met first time and ask her the question while bending on your knees.

Love Letter/Greeting:
old conventional method but still very effective write her a beautiful caligraphed ....
Write all your memories,the time you have spent together,how is she so special.dont go filmy while writing,be genuine and slowly arrive to your point. a hand made greeting card  with all these things is also a good option

If she is your very good or may be old friend then you must be having her pics
or your mutual friends might be having, collect them and then create a video of her photos,memories and all your sweet times spent together with a beautiful romantic
song in the background and pop the question at the end of the video and make her watch that video when she is with you.

if you are afraid to ask her face to face try this amazing and unique thing out.
at the night time get her doorstep covered with rose petals , beautiful candles , balloons and a teddy-bear at the center . when these things are all set. Just give her a phone call and ask her to come out of the house or may be look outside the balcony and just surprise her and ask her your magical question. you can also replace teddy bear with a ring.

Romantic Dinner:
Take her for dinner at her favorite place. Order what she likes, with beautiful music being played in the background , propose her using simple lines while giving her a ring.


Looooooooooooooooooooong Drive:
just take her to a long drive play light music in a car . long drive is one of the best way to spend time with her, laugh with her and spend quality time with her and near about at the end of  the journey you can propose her. Or what you can do during a journey just tell her what kind of girl you want and tell her that you like some one and give her the description of herself only , she will automatically understand and at the end you can propose her.

Camp Fire:
if you can go on a weekend somewhere with her and your friends or a college trip or something. spend some time with her. at some romantic location bend on your knees and ask the question or may be at the campfire or while boating when sun is setting and you and your love are in the boat..

Place with a colourful fountain:
At night take her to a garden with a fountain. cover the vicinity with heart shaped balloons and candles. fountain will add the charm in the situation and then propose the girl. From this i just want to mention that propose her at some romantic and calm place where both are alone and in a mood of romance..


But my style is different it's more romantic and touchy ........

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I propose to you my love
that eye desire to kiss you
each and every morning upon arising

I propose to you my sweet
that eye wish to feed upon you
each and every morning my Beloved

I propose to you my love
that eye desire to play with you
silentlee every night of delight

I propose to you my sweet
to honor you with all of my being
and to appreciate your way of seeing.

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The moment I opened my heart and let you in
I saw this great love starting to begin.
I opened my eyes to a vision of you
I hope, I pray your feelings are true.
I have loved and I have paid the cost
And I have felt the pain of the love I lost.
But, now, I think I have truly found
An Angel who walks upon the ground.
You go beyond all limits for me
Just to show your love endlessly.
I could search my whole life through
And never find another ‘you’.
You are so special that I wanted you to know
I truly, completely love you so......